After signing up yesterday with a silly profile and ugly photo, I’ve received my first flirt from the new Match over-50 dating site, OurTime.
This is where I really feel for singles. Do I pay $20, $53 or $71 to see who flirted with me?
In any other context, paying $20 to read an email is insane. Especially when it’s only a wink. Dating sites really have no option but to work this way. Its unfortunate but how else are they going to get free members to convert to subscribers?
If I knew the flirt was from a verified member, I probably would be more likely to pay up, but the fact that they don’t show the person’s photo or username or a bit of text from/about them has me on the defensive.
I’m talking to OurTime tomorrow, should be able to report back with some clarity on where the profiles are being copied over from and other details about the launch.
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I learned the hard way with these sites. I too spent the money to see emails from others but it’s not necessarry to do that. I’ve been on OK Cupid for FREE, and it’s like any other just don’t have to pay. I’m 56, female and to be honest what’s out there isn’t that great to begin with. I consider myself to be half way good looking, take care of myself & feel if I have to be on one of these sites there must be something wrong with me. To have to pay for it makes me feel somehow dirty.
Wow, it’s a bit unnerving out there. I thought I was ready to pull myself up by my bootstraps and get out there, but maybe being alone a bit longer isn’t so bad after all. Ladies it looks like we are all looking for the same type of man. I know there must be one out there somewhere, but I’m not falling into the dating site scams. Thanks for all your comments. You’ve saved me frustration and money. I’ll stick with family and friends for now. Best of Luck!
Beware, there are several men who don’t post their pic or profile but respond to yours with lots of flattery and want to meet up soon. Then when you meet -you find out it’s just SEX that they are interested in and giving you a ‘story’ that their still living with an ex just for awhile – only a cell phone given no address to reach them – BEWARE – lot’s of men just troiling for “a good time”
Interesting comments..I had thought that maybe ourtime.com was different. I had joined an open site 8 months ago only to see that 55 yo men had an age limit of 25-45 years. REALLY..?? I joined OT for a month and have not had much luck. One offer for phone sex, one offer to meet then received an email a few hours later stating he had another date and does not “serial date”, one guy wanted to know if I had a “cheerleader outfit”, a few flirts that I respond to and then no more contact…I have learned there is not much difference between 16 yo boys & 60 yr old men..LOL. Will be cancelling and not joining anymore sites. Wonder where the widely repeated statistic, “1 in 5 people meet their soulmate” comes from??
I wouldn’t pay any dating site, anything. There is no proven track record for any of these sites. No stats of any kind. Now there are the free one’s. Those are the one’s with the misfits of society and women with health issues, drama, baggage and weight problems. Why do you think they are on there? It’s free. This is all relative to my own opinion.
ALL the online dating sites are FAKE, beware!! most are owned by the same man from Canada. Haven’t you guys noticed most of the profiles are in terrible English? cant believe that many men actually cannot spell or puntuate correctly. A lot of these sites “steal” photos and create profiles, hence the awful English. PLUS I know for a fact after meeting a few on the sites, MOST ARE MARRIED or they have LIED about pretty much everything, age esp. background. YES its sickening too that ugly, redneck, men with NO money “THINK” they can get women 20 years younger. duh guys, ONLY if you have Trumps bank account!!
Better luck meeting someone at a grocery store than ANY of these “dating” sites, they are a joke and nothing more than a way for someone to get very rich.
Jade, interesting comment. Which websites are you refering too? I know that match had tons of scammers and fake profiles. The scammers tried to squeeze money out of me too.
Sue
YES,,,,,,,,,,,NEVER EVER give out your credit card to any of these online dating sites. You will be lucky to EVER get any refund and they will continue to charge your card. ONLY American Express is good about canceling them for good. PLEASE PEOPLE>………..these dating sites are a JOKE and a money maker for the same guy who pretty owns ALL of them, just uses different names for the “dating” sites. He is in Canada, so the BBB wont be of much help here in the states. Also, most of the men on these sites are LOSERS, Married!! or think they are going to get a hot young blonde babe, yea right……………. Good luck to all. I have NO idea where a woman in her 50′s is suppose to meet a nice decent man her age??? :(
Well, that was an interesting read. Thanks for all who responded. I was pretty sure I was done with the sites but now the last spark has been extinguished.
It was interesting (and disappointing/poignant/sometimes almost funny) to hear of some of the experiences. I guess it can be hard for both genders. My frustrations mainly were concerned with not even getting an acknowledgement that I sent a thoughtful initial email. I’m thinking that’s rude, but that’s just me talking. Yeah, I did get one 10-yr-old, 50 lb-lighter pic (not sure how starting out on a lie makes any sense), but for the most part it was all just about trying to figure out how much of a match there could be.
Friends/family has panned out. I say Meetup groups might be a good way. At least you’re doing something you want to be doing. I know there is someone who likes motorcycle camping… (8-)
I paid for your services and met a very nice man back in November 2011 and we are still together….thank you so much for that. However, after we met, I cancelled my membership in December 2011, but you are still billing me…..please stop. I don’t believe I should have been paying these three months after I cancelled. I would like my money back and for you to stop billing me. I am putting a stop on your services with my bank so you can not continue to take my money. I can not find an email address for you so I have to resort to this blog. Beginning to think this is a scam to get money now. Once again…..please stop billing and taking money from my account. I can’t even log onto OurTime because they keep telling me I AM NOT REGISTERED!!!!! I AM NOT A MEMBER!!!! Ok…..so stop!!!! Enough said!
The Best way to stop billing is to go in and switch debit card numbers to an acct that you KNOW only has $ 5.00 in it at any given time,,,,Works everytime I keep 1 acct just for that purpose. :)
I have now been on this site for over 3 months. I have not met anyone who is worth my time or money. It seems most men here are the bottom of the barrel…out of work, out of shape and are bankrupt in the character department. Worst of all the amount of scammers and fraudulent profiles is astounding! Beware of ANY MAN who says he is a widower. They are getting more clever and have cleaned up their English, but they are phony nonetheless.
DO NOT SUBSCRIBE TO THIS SITE!
Hey Shelley,
Match is also notorious for posting phony trumped up profiles. And yes,
BEWARE if they state they are widowers. It’s digusting. The real widowers get the shaft. I am a widow and I seek a widower, but now I do not know who to trust. The scammers usually have an age range of 40-60, that being said
it somewhat of a guideline to detect the scammers. Either way I am thinking this is not the way to look for the last love of my life.
Pennie
I have been on this site for a few weeks. I signed up for one month just to try it. There are a lot of older men that seem nice but you never know. The reason I am writing this review is to tell all the women out there thinking of using this site is to **beware** of scammers who pretend to be soldiers from Afghanistan, saying they are using someone else’s profile due to security reasons. Oh they make it sound real good…even sending pictures of soldier’s embracing their kids!! How despicable!!!
I gave one my email…(I opened separate email account just to receive emails from this site ) after reading one email it was obvious English was not their first language. So I figured it out quickly and blocked any further communication. Then just today as I was online another chat popped up with the same come line. Well, you can imagine what I told him…lol So be careful ladies and happy hunting!
I totally agree with Penny and some of the others above. Upon joining I was immediately contacted by men requesting my personal information (phone number, email, address). When I refused or ignored them they were rude and demeaning! I also found that many sent auto-messages (not real replies) or were not the person shown in the profile (two admitted to me that “that’s not me…send me your personal info because I can’t make my own profile here”). What’s that all about?!
Today was the last straw! I signed on and a man IMMEDIATELY contacted me saying he was a police officer and I needed to trust him and send my personal info! Any decent man, especially a good police officer, would not recommend a woman giving out this info to a stranger!
I have already told my friends DO NOT SUBSCRIBE TO THIS SITE and I make the same recommendation to all of you! Stay safe!
Thanks for the heads up. I almost sent money until I read all these comments. The men seemed so sincere and the photos real. I got so many nice responses–it was a real ego boost. To find out its just a scam is so disheartening.
Ha! Thanks for all of your honest commentary – I was nearing the end of my ban on Internet dating & was thinking about trying it again. It seems like it will always be the same old story on these sights, with one’s authenticity no more convincing than if presented in a bar at 2am. At least then we can see what we’re getting right away. I’ve recently cancelled my Facebook account, in an attempt at sticking to more organic forms of communication, & with that I’ll leave finding my Mr. Right to fate and a happy coincidence. Be safe and well everyone.
If this gets posted to the online dating thread then I would like to add my comments. First of all if you are concern about online dating then maybe you sh ould not be seqarching the internet in the first place and find a date the old fashion way. I resent that is is a scam because I have met some real nice woman, who are swincere and know what it is that they way in life and are not desprate to meet anyone. I would not ask a woman for contact information unless she offers it. Most of the time it is given willingly. There are scams everywhere but you just have to use your common since when giving your personal information. Life is too short to live in a bottle. So I disagree with every comment here that is negative. I know I am not the only legitimate male on the site. I am on the site and do not mind giving my screeen name because I am human and not interested in peronsal information. I have been a member since 2001 maybe on related sties and have never had a negative charge to my account. I wish all the ladies good luck int thier quest and if need be write and I will let know if you are being led down a shady path. I do not mind helping you avoid a creep or heartache down the road. One last comment seniorpeoplemeet seem to have changed thier website to ourtime. You can still access seniorpeoplemeet but emails will come from outime.com. I was confused at firat but I stayed with seniorpeoplemeet because that is what I am sue to.
Well sorry I had to repost because of all the spelling errors. I do not want you to think I am some out of towner.
If this gets posted to the online dating thread then I would like to add my comments. First of all if you are concern about online dating then maybe you should not be searching the internet in the first place and find a date the old fashion way. I resent that is a scam because I have met some real nice woman, who are sincere and know what it is that they way in life and are not desperate to meet anyone. I would not ask a woman for contact information unless she offers it. Most of the time it is given willingly. There are scams everywhere but you just have to use your common since when giving your personal information. Life is too short to live in a bottle. So I disagree with every comment here that is negative. I know I am not the only legitimate male on the site. I am on the site and do not mind giving my screen name because I am human and not interested in personal information. I have been a member since 2001 maybe on related sites and have never had a negative charge to my account. I wish all the ladies good luck in their quest and if need be write and I will let know if you are being led down a shady path. I do not mind helping you avoid a creep or heartache down the road. One last comment seniorpeoplemeet seem to have changed their website to ourtime. You can still access seniorpeoplemeet but emails will come from outime.com. I was confused at first but I stayed with seniorpeoplemeet because that is what I am use to.
The Best Free dating site to use is Emeraldmatch.com
I have used many dating sites in the past and the only dating site that worked for me was emeraldmatch the first day i got flirts and emails all of there members are real people . Yes i paid $19 dollars but its worth it every other dating site that i joined in the past wanted $149. So if you want a nice dating site my best bet is to try out emeraldmatch.com here is the link http://www.emeraldmatch.com
Mario im going to check out emeraldmatch.com and tell you if i like it ok
Phil: I am considering a over 50 website. Live in L.V. Like camping. biking, hiking, cards, board games & men on motorcycles. Went to bike week Az two years in a row. Did not meet a guy looking for a near 60 (in shape) lady… Saw a great REO concert & had a great time with my two bff’s though. Saw Carlos Santana sat. night house of blues too. If you have single friends in l.v. HELP!
I didn’t have a good experience with this site.
They overcharged me from very beginning. If you apply when they offer you discount 25% do not believe it. They charged me regular price and when I wrote them two times, I haven’t received any answer so far. Also chat system is slow.
I feel bad that so many woman have had the same negative experiences as me on dating sites. BUT I do need to say that in the years I’ve been on them (mostly free sites ex: OKCupid) I’ve met some REAL guys and actually had a year long relationship with one and made good friends with another. So there are real possibilities on them. But you must be careful of the scammers and if they don’t email you back, don’t be hurt, most likely they aren’t real or are married, just put there as draws for us or guys “checking the waters”, so to speak. GOOD LUCK LADIES! Don’t stop looking for love, I won’t! :0)
the free weekends and phony profiles are awful, I know there are some good men out there, but have many liars and losers. It would be great if after sending a thoughtful e mail that you receive a real e mail back.I wish chemistry which is quite expensive wou8ld screen the profiles-I will call then-Judy in Mass.
many phonies and liars and fake profiles on the expensive chemistyr website. Free weeknds attract losers and liars-I will habve to call chemisstry-Judy in Ma
Your best bet when paying for these sites is to use a virual credit card so it can not be recharged without your permission as you need a new experation date. Card is only good for a month. I use it all the time for any order that I am not sure about or do not want the auto renew done on them–my true card number is never known. Be safe ladies…
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