Comments on: Dr. Helen Fisher on 2020

By: Fernando Ardenghi

Fernando Ardenghi — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 04:17:32 +0000

Dave, can you call Ms. Mandy Ginsberg and ask her about a Success Indicator for Chemistry ?
Is Chemistry performing as expected for their paying members ?

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Dr. Helen Fisher had previously said:

“I have come to believe that we have evolved through three distinctly different brain systems for love.
One is lust ………….
………….
The second brain system is romantic love …
… And the third brain system is attachment, that sense of calm and security that you can feel for a long term partner
………
The one difference between long term love and short term love is that we find new brain regions associated with calm and pain. In short, early stage romantic love is replaced by a new calm.
……………………..
…………………….
”

I respectfully recommend Dr. Fisher to include a normative personality test like the 16PF5 and try to check if it is only personality similarity between prospectives mates the key to long_term_mating with commitment.

[Test like the 16PF5 to assess Warmth; Reasoning; Emotional Stability; Dominance, Liveliness; RuleConsciousness; Social Boldness; Sensitivity; Vigilance; Abstractedness; Privateness Apprehension; Openness to Change; SelfReliance; Perfectionism; Tension. ]

Regards,

Fernando Ardenghi.
Buenos Aires.
Argentina.
ardenghifer@gmail.com

By: David Evans

David Evans — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 14:42:39 +0000

You say the same thing often, how would a late-stage attraction test work?

By: Fernando Ardenghi

Fernando Ardenghi — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 05:37:53 +0000

Hi Dave,

The video is available at
http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=6775422
(5 parts)

Her research could be quite innovative and important but ….
Dr. Helen Fisher should demonstrate/prove the method she had invented is for long_term_mating with commitment and not for short_term_mating.

**** Is there a Success Indicator for Chemistry (and worldwide rebranded names Daily5, Cupido Diario, Afinesati, Com-Bacio, MatchMe, Chemie, Alchimie, Amor) ?
e.g: Success Indicator = persons who leave the site because they think they had found someone highly compatible.

**** Which is exactly the percentage of those persons leaving the site because they think they had found someone highly compatible (and not due to other causes)?

To my best knowledge, Chemistry (USA site) has a low successful “1.2.3 MEET in person step-by-step process”, low successful first meeting rate for its members
and
its matching method only reported early stage attraction between prospective mates and after the first meeting; in some persons attraction reduces its level or worse even, morphs/metamorphoses to rejection i.e. it is working only for short_term_mating!!!

In others words, I think Dr. Helen Fisher took a wrong way and the compatibility method she had invented only reports early stage attraction between prospective mates for short_term_mating.

Regards,

Fernando Ardenghi.
Buenos Aires.
Argentina.
ardenghifer@gmail.com