Comments on: “Who’s viewed me” Is Only The Beginning http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/ Online Dating Industry Consulting & Commentary Thu, 24 May 2012 21:18:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Phil http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-984 Phil Thu, 16 Feb 2006 06:21:23 +0000 http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/#comment-984 I know what JC is saying but I have found myself checking Matchinform. Even on ebay someone can unfairly rate another member, regardless of whether or not the package was on time, there can be a difference of opinion on the qulaity of the item sent, among other complaints. Ebay ratings are subjective as well. However, Matchinform does use multiple choice questions to make it a little more objective anf keep the reports to the point. Political differences are not part of the list of questions, nor are questions about religion. Smart on the part of matchinform, in my opinion. I know what JC is saying but I have found myself checking Matchinform. Even on ebay someone can unfairly rate another member, regardless of whether or not the package was on time, there can be a difference of opinion on the qulaity of the item sent, among other complaints. Ebay ratings are subjective as well. However, Matchinform does use multiple choice questions to make it a little more objective anf keep the reports to the point.
Political differences are not part of the list of questions, nor are questions about religion. Smart on the part of matchinform, in my opinion.

]]> By: J.C. http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-983 J.C. Fri, 10 Feb 2006 01:06:02 +0000 http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/#comment-983 This is tricky, because contrary to sites like E-bay and BBB, rating the quality of a date is a lot more subjective and could therefore be misleading or unfair to the member. With E-bay, if the package arrives, late, the product is broken, the seller doesn't communicate when the buyer asks a question, then you have a right to complain--but all of these are tangible, easily supported complaints. With dates, a negative rating could simply stem from a basic lack of compatibility (she's ultra-liberal and offended by his fiercely conservative convictions; he's shy and put off by her outspokenness, etc.) In cases like these, neither person has done anything wrong, but someone could conceivably get a negative rating from a date that went south due to disagreements or personality clashes, while for a different member, the same person might be perfect mate material. Also, unlike sites such as E-bay, it's tough to judge the validity of the ratings based on quantity, because personally, given the choice to date someone who had 5 very positive ratings or 100, the first one would seem much more appealing for a serious relationship. J.C. Intellect Connect http://www.intellectconnect.com This is tricky, because contrary to sites like E-bay and BBB, rating the quality of a date is a lot more subjective and could therefore be misleading or unfair to the member.

With E-bay, if the package arrives, late, the product is broken, the seller doesn’t communicate when the buyer asks a question, then you have a right to complain–but all of these are tangible, easily supported complaints. With dates, a negative rating could simply stem from a basic lack of compatibility (she’s ultra-liberal and offended by his fiercely conservative convictions; he’s shy and put off by her outspokenness, etc.) In cases like these, neither person has done anything wrong, but someone could conceivably get a negative rating from a date that went south due to disagreements or personality clashes, while for a different member, the same person might be perfect mate material.

Also, unlike sites such as E-bay, it’s tough to judge the validity of the ratings based on quantity, because personally, given the choice to date someone who had 5 very positive ratings or 100, the first one would seem much more appealing for a serious relationship.

J.C.
Intellect Connect
http://www.intellectconnect.com

]]> By: Janice http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-982 Janice Fri, 27 Jan 2006 19:05:39 +0000 http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/#comment-982 Like anything else, I guess something like matchinform has to catch on. Like the better busuness bureau or ebay rating, they really start to mean something after a number of reports are filed. I like the idea. Like anything else, I guess something like matchinform has to catch on. Like the better busuness bureau or ebay rating, they really start to mean something after a number of reports are filed.

I like the idea.

]]> By: Mike http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-981 Mike Tue, 24 Jan 2006 23:57:21 +0000 http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/#comment-981 I think the concept of matchinform looks interesting but I wonder how valuable the info is. I guess like anything it should be taken with a grain of salt but without a large amount of comments, it really looks like the opinion of one or two people from what I see. Maybe once the site catches on... I think the concept of matchinform looks interesting but I wonder how valuable the info is. I guess like anything it should be taken with a grain of salt but without a large amount of comments, it really looks like the opinion of one or two people from what I see. Maybe once the site catches on…

]]> By: Heather http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-980 Heather Tue, 24 Jan 2006 20:27:08 +0000 http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/#comment-980 There is a rating service that i have been using and i do not know why nobody is talking about it, I found it through the advicediva.com's website. Diva Rebecca sent me a mailing about Matchinform.com, it is something everyone should be using. A simple rate your date website using user name searches. It is anonymous and free. I am using it and i am rating dates i go on to help others. More should be said about this valuable source of information. There is a rating service that i have been using and i do not know why nobody is talking about it, I found it through the advicediva.com’s website.

Diva Rebecca sent me a mailing about Matchinform.com, it is something everyone should be using. A simple rate your date website using user name searches.

It is anonymous and free. I am using it and i am rating dates i go on to help others.

More should be said about this valuable source of information.

]]> By: Mike http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-979 Mike Sat, 21 Jan 2006 04:22:45 +0000 http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/#comment-979 We actually disabled the "Who Viewed Me" function on our site but brought it back due to the numerous complaints. People seem to at least see they are being looked at. We actually disabled the “Who Viewed Me” function on our site but brought it back due to the numerous complaints. People seem to at least see they are being looked at.

]]> By: Brain Dancer http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-978 Brain Dancer Sat, 21 Jan 2006 02:23:49 +0000 http://onlinedatingpost.com/archives/2006/01/whos_viewed_me_is_only_the_beginning/#comment-978 A rating service (anononymously, perhaps) would really add value to online dating. I think you have a brilliant idea. Why did 7000 men view my profile on Match.com -- and yet I got so few actual dates from it? (I never actually dated anyone on Match...most of my successful dates are from Craislist or Fast Cupid, sites with an edgier, more intellectual clientelle.) Actually, most of my successful dates are with men I meet IN THE REAL WORLD and not on the Internet. Oddly, every one of these men I met OUT THERE was also ON HERE. And over time, it seems that everyone I meet ON HERE, I eventually run into OUT THERE. Sometimes it's really embarassing when you run into your online dating prospects in reality -- like Saturday when I was dancing and this man was staring at me, and finally he walks up to me and says: "Hey, are you Cinnamin Girl? And I said, well, yes. "You never replied to my email on Match.com." Well, it is so good to meet you now. This is a better way anyway, don't you think? I said. We danced for a while, and he was attractive, but it was clear to me after a few minutes that we had no spark -- that Je Ne Sais Quois was just not there. I have to say, if I'd met him "Out There" I probably would have never danced at all. Now does that mean that Online Dating services help us connect with people we wouldn't normally give a chance to? Or is it really just validation that computers still can't replicate that Je Ne Sai Quoi that drives attraction and romance? It would be helpful, though, to know why you're getting passed up. Is it lack of compatibility? A bad photo? Typos in the profile? The potential for self improvement is interesting. A rating service (anononymously, perhaps) would really add value to online dating. I think you have a brilliant idea.

Why did 7000 men view my profile on Match.com — and yet I got so few actual dates from it? (I never actually dated anyone on Match…most of my successful dates are from Craislist or Fast Cupid, sites with an edgier, more intellectual clientelle.)

Actually, most of my successful dates are with men I meet IN THE REAL WORLD and not on the Internet. Oddly, every one of these men I met OUT THERE was also ON HERE. And over time, it seems that everyone I meet ON HERE, I eventually run into OUT THERE.

Sometimes it’s really embarassing when you run into your online dating prospects in reality — like Saturday when I was dancing and this man was staring at me, and finally he walks up to me and says: “Hey, are you Cinnamin Girl?

And I said, well, yes.

“You never replied to my email on Match.com.”

Well, it is so good to meet you now. This is a better way anyway, don’t you think? I said.

We danced for a while, and he was attractive, but it was clear to me after a few minutes that we had no spark — that Je Ne Sais Quois was just not there. I have to say, if I’d met him “Out There” I probably would have never danced at all. Now does that mean that Online Dating services help us connect with people we wouldn’t normally give a chance to? Or is it really just validation that computers still can’t replicate that Je Ne Sai Quoi that drives attraction and romance?

It would be helpful, though, to know why you’re getting passed up. Is it lack of compatibility? A bad photo? Typos in the profile? The potential for self improvement is interesting.

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