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I dated for 20 years in “the real world”–before online dating came along and turned the world of love upside down. I always had a boyfriend–nice, decent, employed, good looking men usually. My boyfriends usually shared common interests — in particular, a love of the outdoors, backpacking, sailing, skiing and climbing. We would meet, date a few times, and it seemed that a monogamous relationship quickly followed — usually one that lasted for two years or more. After all, back then, you were lucky to meet someone date-worthy a few times a year, and you weren’t likely to jump ship because there just weren’t that many options. A date was rare, precious and treated as a special opportunity. And when you were attached, it was just about impossible to look out for new prospects.

But all that changed in the last ten years with online dating. I’ve found it’s almost impossible to get past the first date on to the second. I now date 3 times a week — instead of a few times a year. The guys I date might be juggling two or three other partners — and who knows how many are hounding me at any moment. You almost need a spreadsheet to keep the names and numbers straight.

Now we all treat these dates as disposable commodities. Hey, if it doesn’t work out, you’ve got 28 more potential suitors in your in box. So why give a date a second chance, why tolerate someone who might need a few tweaks, who isn’t perfect out of the box? Why would you accept a fixer upper when there are so many possibilities to choose from?

In this land of plenty, of too many choices, I find that myself and my friends are lonelier than ever. We expect so much — and while holding out for perfection, we find the months passing by, increasingly alone.

I for one, would love to see online dating abolished and go back to the “old way” of meeting people — on the dance floor, cheek to cheek, where the chemistry is obvious, where you can see and smell and touch.

Only when online dating sites can capture and release this indefinable thing we call chemistry will they succeed in helping us find lasting love.

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Hi Doc,
It has been my experience in the last three months my zip code cause a problem. I live in northern Montana in a population of about 500, thus my reason for joining Perfect Match. The population is small and as well the avalible men. But I have found a great percentage of my matches are not interested in a small town cowgirl.There have been many contacts but nothing that leeds to dating, anyone that would like to would have to fly in for that date. I deceiced at the time of enrolling I would dedicate a % of my time to this and to no avale. I am 55 years old in good shape and the looks wagon dident pass me by, my profile for perfet match is RBOP.
please help ,what can I do to make this better???

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